Sometimes I'm completely blank. I don't know where life will take me, and I always remind myself that it's okay, even if I haven't figured it out yet.
If you've ever stared at your ceiling at 2 AM wondering if you're on the right path, you're not alone. That uncomfortable feeling of uncertainty isn't your enemy—it's your internal guidance system asking the most important question of all.
The Question That Cuts Through the Noise
The point is beautifully simple: Am I putting in all the hard work and effort to achieve what I have visualized?
If the answer is yes, then there's nothing to worry about. Keep going.
If not, then why am I complaining or thinking that nothing is working out?
This single question has the power to separate genuine effort from self-deception. It's the difference between being busy and being effective, between hoping for change and creating it.
The Comparison Trap
I watch other people grow, and it seems so simple. But why am I not achieving the same results? I can create the same content, the same posts, and use the same ideas, but I don't achieve the same outcomes I expected.
This is where most of us tend to get stuck. We see the highlight reel and assume we can replicate the results without walking the same invisible journey. We want the destination without the transformation that comes from the path.
The questions I ask myself cut deeper: Am I working that hard? Am I being authentic or just fooling myself? Did I go through the same journey as other people did?
The Uncomfortable Truth
Answering these questions honestly, I've realized I'm not putting in hard enough work. I'm still cutting corners.
If I have a big dream, I need to accept that I am the one responsible for making it true. We all know what exactly we need to do, but when the moment arrives, we make excuses and choose the comfortable path. We avoid the hassle and risks involved in real growth.
This isn't a character flaw—it's human nature. But recognizing it is the first step toward transcending it.
The Philosophy of Honest Effort
Once we start being honest with ourselves and give our 100%, something beautiful happens. Even when we don't get the expected results, we still feel fulfilled.
Why? Because we tried. We fell in love with the process. We didn't give up. We performed at our best. Most importantly, we built the skill of "trying again and again" until it's done.
This is where real strength develops—not in the success, but in the relationship we build with effort itself.
The Shift from External to Internal
When we operate from this place of honest effort, we no longer need to rely on external motivation—fame, praise, rewards, or money. We build intrinsic motivation that works as fuel for our brain to keep going and actually crave doing the hard work.
Intrinsic motivation comes from three sources: curiosity, mastery, and purpose.
These aren't abstract concepts. They're practical tools that transform how we approach every challenge.
Roadmap Back to Clarity
So whenever you feel completely blank and want to regain control of your life, start here:
Begin with curiosity. Pay attention to yourself. Notice what you love to read about, the things you search for online, what makes you fall in love with the process rather than just the outcome.
Seek mastery. Choose something—anything—and commit to getting genuinely good at it. The confidence that comes from real skill builds upon itself.
Find your purpose. This isn't about finding your life's grand mission. It's about understanding why this particular challenge, this specific goal, matters to you right now.
This becomes your turning point. You learn, you perform, and you start to see yourself growing—not because someone else validated your progress, but because you can feel the internal shift happening.
The Paradox of Being Lost
The blank stare, the uncertainty, the feeling of being lost—these aren't obstacles to overcome. They're invitations to go deeper, to get more honest, to stop performing for others and start building something real for yourself.
Your confusion is not a bug in your system; it's a feature. It means you're ready to stop accepting surface-level answers and start doing the work that actually changes things.
The question isn't whether you'll figure it out. The question is whether you'll trust yourself enough to begin.
-Ranvijay
This was such a brave and necessary read. I’ve been there telling the “small” lies to keep the peace or avoid discomfort. But honesty with ourselves is where real freedom begins. Thank you for modeling what it looks like to choose truth, even when it’s hard.